"We want you back!" Have you ever received one of those letters in your mail box or email inbox? "We miss you! Come back to see us soon!" This is the message that God had for Israel in the book of Hosea. God loved Israel despite their disobedience and turning away from him. He sent Hosea as an example for their relationship.
God still offers redemption today to everyone who believes. Everyone. Even if you don't go to church or don't want to talk to some minister, talk to God today. He is there...listening.
Lord, thank you for showing your faithfulness and love in every way. Please save me from myself.
Wee-way-shun-ship Wednesday
Just friends...
There comes a point in almost every relationship (since every relationship can't end up in a permanent one!) where you have the "we can still be friends" talk. I love that talk! NOT! Well, I sort of do like that talk because it can mean that you can at least salvage a friendship out of what might have been a romantic relationship. If the person was worth having a romantic relationship with, shouldn't being friends be great? Let's look at that based on the two categories I defined a few weeks ago...
When you care too much...
When you are the one who cares too much, just being friends is probably not enough. The romantic feelings are too strong to settle for anything less than a romantic relationship. That is unfortunate in many ways, but it can also be merciful. The one who cares too much can feel like a dagger is being twisted each time he sees the other party or can feel nothing at all if he represses his feelings so deep to alleviate the pain he feels. Time can often heal this pain if the one who cares too much opens the wound, and the pain again, for healing to begin. It is not easy.
When you don't care that much...
You know the type - the guy or gal that is just along for the ride so they say they are "dating" someone. Their self-esteem appears to be based on that "dating" status. They need the attention. Sometimes they are actually looking for a long-term relationship. Sometimes they are actually emotionally available to have one. Be kind and patient if you are this person. The other person can't help it if she cares too much. That passion is one of the things that attracted you to her, isn't it?
Here are two more scenarios. Think about them...
When neither of you really cares that much...
Sometimes it is just about sex or just about having someone to do stuff with like movies, dinner, etc. Going through the motions of a romantic relationship is not healthy. Just be friends and set appropriate boundaries. I used to believe in "friends with benefits", but I don't any more. Having a true friend is the only benefit I need from someone.
When you both care too much
Sometimes stuff just happens. A job moves one of you away. Family issues cause you to be apart. Stuff happens. Acknowledge your feelings. Develop a reasonable approach to the relationship going forward. Just friends may be hard because you both had strong feelings. It is just not meant to be. Let it go. Remain close. Thank God for the chance to love someone special. I realize that it is not as easy as the few sentences that I just wrote...
Other Stuff
My right eye is healing up after my laser surgery on Monday. It will take a week or two to settle down. It is blurry, not blurry, etc. at different times during the day. It will be fine.
I have been working hard on my Disciple 2 studying the past two nights. I felt like God told me to get my butt back in that class after missing last week and telling my minister that I planned to drop out. God immediately showed me why I needed to be in the class. The two lessons for this week addressed the things I have been struggling with the past few weeks! The additional insight was amazing. I have some things to think about and pray about as I move forward. Thank you God for showing me the way. Please help me be a better listener when you speak.
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