There is an expression: "out of sight, out of mind". I think that is one of the most difficult things for a Christian. Christ is "out of sight" for most folks. Why do I say "most folks"? I say that because I believe that many folks can see Christ each day in many ways. The devotional talks about seeing Christ in the scriptures. I also see Christ each day in the lives of others, in nature, and in the way He works in my life. If you think about it, even Christ's disciples who were around him for years still had trouble believing!
The devotion also spoke to me today to learn more about the Bible. Not just to learn more, but to write the Word of God on my heart so I can be more godly. Talk about a lofty goal! I signed up for the Disciple 2 Bible study class at church. It starts the second Monday in September. I admire both of the men who are teaching it. I am sure I will write it about here!
Wee-way-shun-ship Wednesday
So you met someone and started seeing each other a few times, maybe seeing each other a LOT! The next question that usually comes up is "What are we?"
I HATE this question. I hate asking it. I hate answering it. It may be because I am usually the one asking the question. That is a possible personality flaw as I like to have things out in the open. Asking this question also implies expectations. The question can imply expectations that one person has, but not the other. Frankly, I have never been good at negotiating through ths process. My approach to a relationship is simple: I like you, you like me, let's go for it!
It is my understanding that part of the "process" of developing a relationship with someone is working through questions like this. There are two references that come close to making sense to me. They are for team formation and for collaboration. I have no clue beyond those references!
For team building, the four phases are forming, storming, norming and performing. Check out this link to learn more about how these steps apply to team building. They sort of make sense to me for establishing a personal relationship as well. The steps don't have to apply only to romantic relationships, but to friendships as well.
The collaboration reference is the book "The Power of Two". The authors identify and explore the following eight elements of a powerful partnership and devote a chapter to each—match those who are strong in one skill with another who is weak and vice versa; pursue a common mission; fairness; trust; accept the other’s idiosyncrasies; forgiveness; good communication; and unselfishness or valuing the other’s success.
I see the development of relationship or friendship moving through these stages and exploring these elements. Check out the article and book to see what you think.
Other Stuff
I got my MRI test results back last night. The small mass was not a malignant tumor. Woohoooooo! I think most of my abdominal/gastric issues are from my diet. I need to be much more disciplined about what I eat. I have gotten much better over the years. That tells you just how bad I was in the past!
I had a nice time at the fundraiser last night. I didn't stay very long since I had some stuff to do around the house.
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